The reunion came and went and all in all, it was a decent use of my time. To get a general feeling for the overall consensus of what my friends and I thought of the affair, let’s start off with some direct quotes:
“That was probably the most four wasteful hours of my life.”
Question: How’s the reunion?
While I suppose I’m glad that I went, it may not have been the most successful social experiment. Although I wouldn’t go so far as to say my plan resulted in total failure, it definitely did not have as great of an outcome as I had hoped.
So what was the problem? Unpredicted obstacles presented themselves: the venue was too dimly lit and much too small, resulting in 100+ guests crammed into an odd layout of a homey space. Also, a lack of nametags prevented an ease of conversation starters. One couldn’t just waltz right up to someone they may not have remembered, and strike up a non-awkward conversation that didn’t involve trying to guess who the other person was.
In general though, I did succeed at my mission. I did converse with some people whom I would have never talked to in high school. Maybe it’s just a title that I continue the use of, but I was unsuccessful in talking to those “popular kids” in the cliques I wanted to unclique. Nonetheless, I was able to talk at length (i.e: more than a simple, “hello”) to a number of classmates of whom for one reason or another, I had never convered with prior to the reunion. So for that major accomplishment, I would conclude that the 10-year high school reunion social experiment was not a complete bust.
Tonight is the event I’ve been so preparing for. Tonight is my high school’s 10 year reunion and there is only one more step I have yet to cover regarding my plan to Unclique The Cliques.
The last step is to gather all interested parties. Is this a solo mission or will I have assistance from others? Originally, I thought that it would be most rewarding for myself if I conducted this operation on my own. But with the help from others, not only will more clique group barriers be broken up, but then the mission will truely be a success. With more people in on my plan, the more increased success will be the result.
With all these steps being set in place, I feel confident that my operation will go as planned. With a little help and a lot of confidence, I believe that if any cliques are still in place, they will no longer cease to be if my plan is successful. My next post should be very informative, about the results of my operation. Stay tuned!
Three days remain until Operation: Unclique The Cliques is implemented at my 10 year high school reunion and I grow ever weary that this plan will not work accordingly. One reason for my doubt is the case for obstacles or distractions from achieving what I am setting out to accomplish. Thus, in Step 6 of my mission, I cover how to make this work while accommodating the unpredictable.
There will inevitably be distractions at the reunion. I can already think of a few hurdles that will get in my way: the process of ordering/consuming beverages; talking to the people I genuinely want to see; etc. However, I will need to find a way to prioritize all potentially important activities.
I need to schedule time in order to make everything happen and in an efficient manner. Perhaps I will need to make my peers aware of my plan in order to make the evening go smoothly. Priorities need to be set and perameters need to be adhered to so that all can be accomplished. And lastly, I need to make sure that throughout the entire operation, I can still have fun. That is the most important part to this whole plan, and without it, I fear no progress will be made.
The great ten year high school reunion is a mere four days away and today’s post regarding my social experiment surrounding this event is probably the most important part. This mission would not be complete without remembering the root of the problem: judgments. It is because of people judging others, that bullying happens, or how cliques are formed in the beginning.
In Step 5 of my operation to “Unclique The Cliques,” I need to seriously wipe my mind free of all past judgements I have in turn, held against my fellow classmates. Sure, we have all felt being judged in high school by our peers, but guess what? I’m pretty sure many of us judged right back. And that sure, won’t help things. So as much as it might be easy to continue to hold certain grudges, or make biased assesments, it’s just going to hinder us from communicating with others in a positive manner.
Looking at the list of people who are attending this reunion, I immediately remember the thoughts I had in high school about each. But with a decade of years between those feelings, I must learn to forget all of those feelings I may have felt towards some for unnecessary or non-existent reasons.
When it comes down to it all, I probably had minimum interaction with those who I claimed scrutiny upon. It helps to believe that people are inherently good as well. I’m sure that those I never talked to in high school are relatively normal people like myself. And there’s even a likely chance that such people I would pin as intimidating, might even feel the same towards me. So let’s level the playing field, shall we? If all prior opinions are banished, this operation should go down much more smoothly.
We are exactly one week away from the implementation of Operation: Unclique The Cliques and today I cover a step that is actually optional. Though this step may be excluded, it is still quite helpful to achieving the set goal.
The fourth step to make this work is to brush up on Facebook research/ “stalking” to generate easy conversation topics. Thankfully, many of the people who will be attending this reunion, have open or public profiles, so this information is easily available.
However, it is important that this learned information doesn’t come across as overtly creepy. Perhaps just memorizing something basic like the city they currently live in or their job title. Two bits of information that tends to be visible even without a public profile.
Granted, this all comes with a grain of salt. Moderation and limitation is necessary not to overdo such learned information. If you can open with a conversation topic that comes across in a casual, non-offensive manner, then all research will pay off.
Over the past few days, I have wavered on this whole mission because I feel like perhaps I am over-exuding myself. I fear I am putting much too much effort into this whole regale. And yet, then I bring myself back to the root of the situation: a social experiment for equality’s sake.
So I have decided to make things easier on myself and not stress over this so much. Thus, I have decided to make a list of the minimum number of people to approach. Although I will seek out specific people on my list, this list will act as more of a guideline on which cliques to approach.
With this list to guide me through the reunion, I hope to have a better outcome. Such guidelines can aide in a more “serious” approach to this experiment. Now, I will have a direct and specific quota to meet, so my mission can result in success.
With Operation Unclique The Cliques officially underway, I have decided to go forth with sharing my game-plan process. After sharing my initial outline, I have decided that the next step is to get the appropriate outfit for such an occasion. This post can apply to everyone who would either attend a reunion of sorts, or even just to look presentable in a potentially awkward social situation. In able to succeed and to be able to initiate a comfortable conversation for all parties, one needs to compose an ensemble that shows a welcoming and intriguing personality.
I have come quite a long way from my high school days. A decade ago I was simply put, a Hippie. Most notably, I dressed the part to the extreme: with bandanas, patchwork corduroys, and lest we not forget the plethora of tie dye I used to wear. My clothes tended to be as loose as my mindset. So in picking out an outfit for this reunion, pretty much anything could be seen as a more mature upgrade to my clothes from high school. But which direction to take?
I decided that an outfit that highlights the body I kept hidden for so much of high school should be a good starting point. Finding an approachable color/pattern that shows people I am friendly and engaging is also important for this mission. I have also decided that sophistication will be key to keeping up with appearances and coming off as a “mature individual in their upper-twenties.”
I will not reveal my outfit yet, for a maximum surprise factor, which I believe will help in my mission. I can however guarantee that whatever I do end up wearing will be both totally different from anything I wore back in high school, while also not straying too far from who I have become in recent years.
Another factor to take into consideration is to look your best without looking like you over-thought the outfit. It’s easy to over-thinking this game plan (though I believe that over-thinking and over-planning is better than not enough), but if any of you have ever wanted to pretend to be that sad girl (or boy) from the movies, who gets a makeover and then turns heads, then what better opportunity than a reunion?