This one’s for all you awkward singles out there. I’m hoping I can share some useful advice for any of you who are hoping to score a date or even just some positive attention out there in Singles Land. Two weeks ago today, I embarked on my first Speed Dating event and within the past two weeks, I’ve learned a little bit more about the unfortunate things single guys do to dig themselves deeper into the pit of staying single. This post might not be very pretty, but I’m also hoping it won’t be huge news to you either.
In the past few weeks, I have been in communication with a certain guy, who to put it bluntly, just isn’t the best at talking to a potential mate. The following are a few hints I have learned from this such fellow.
- If it isn’t something that the other person already knows, disclosing your age is an appropriate and incredibly useful tidbit of information to dole out in an initial conversation. Sure, this can be an awkward piece of information to suddenly bring up, but perhaps you can do it in a subtle manner. For example, maybe you can ask how long they’ve been out of college/high school/etc. Or ask them what their astrological sign or Chinese Zodiac sign is, if that’s up your alley. For all you know, you could be talking to someone who is 40, though they might look like they’re in their 20s.
- I thought that maybe this would be obvious, but apparently it isn’t. Asking for the other person’s last name comes off as sketchy. This is especially true, if you aren’t discussing it in the context of looking each other up on a social media website such as Facebook. Just asking for their last name? Explain your reasons. This is just plain sketchy.
- As in #2, the same goes for asking for where the other person lives. In general, this is a totally ok thing to inquire about. But if after you get a neighborhood name or generic area, you keep digging for a specific location, you will come off as a stalker. This kind of information is dished out only if you are lucky enough to be invited over. Otherwise, this isn’t the kind of thing you should be asking about.
- Another piece of advice, and this should be obvious, but when talking on the phone, make sure to keep the conversation alive. An awkward silence in person is one thing, but over the phone? That’s really taking things to the next level. You can not have silence on the phone for more than a second or two. I can not stress this one enough. Even if you have to resort to a lame topic like the weather, or what the last movie you saw was, keep talking. If you are too nervous for a phone conversation, then don’t have one. It’s that simple.
- And lastly, if you are genuinely interested in someone, then show it. If you are not interested in someone, show that as well. Beating around the bush will only make your situation more awkward. This hint isn’t so much for just awkward people; it applies to everyone. But if you’re not going to stay on track for a closure in some way, you’re just going to make things uncomfortable and inevitably awkward.
I hope this information will be helpful for those of you hoping to converse with a potential person of interest. As I mentioned, this specific advice stems from a few life experiences that have happened to be recently. If you already knew these hints, then congratulations. Pat yourself on the back and thank your lucky stars that you are better off than you may have thought.